Anonymous asked this question on 4/23/2000:

My husband and I have been married for 7 years. He suffers from depression. Sometimes I feel so helpless when he goes through a low period, I don't know what to do ?? Also, I want to have another child ( we have a 2 yr old son) but he would rather not. How do we get through this ? I would actually like at least 2 more children so I feel having one more would be a compromise. Because of his depression, it is hard for me to find just the right time to really talk about this. Any suggestions ???

targhee gave this response on 4/24/2000:

Dear Anonymous,

It sounds like this is a struggle for you. I have a few questions because I don't know what type of previous help you have sought. Is your husband on medication? If not it could be very helpful. Have you tried counseling? If not it is another good way to receive help. Research shows that medication and/or therapy can help depression and is has been found to be successful.

Also what happens when you try to talk with him? Does he become more depressed? Does it turn into an argument? Is there are way that you can communicate your desires to have another child without him becoming defensive? These are questions I would encourage you to consider. Also, in all of your communication I would encourage you to try to affirm his worth and let him know how important he is to you. I read something interesting the other day at marriage-tips.com on intimacy you might want to look up some of their tips.

Good luck! If you have other questions let me know.

Targhee

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