Anonymous asked this question on 5/20/2000:
I have a 19 year old son who I believe is suffering from chronic depression. He has never really been the same since he returned from a 3-month overseas exchange program at 16. He has dropped out of high school, spent close to a year in the house without going out; for the past 8 months he had a job as a courier and things were looking up; but he just suddenly quit on Thursday and refused to call his boss. Anyway, a lot more could be said but....
I believe he may have clinical depression. He has refused to attend counselling or take medication, and he essentially denies he has any problem that needs help. He is very idealistic and sometimes expresses hopelessness, but he is generally uncommunicative about the thoughts that are going through his mind. His mother and I think he is very fragile at this time and we are extremely concerned for his well-being. To be blunt, the thought that he might take his life has crossed our mind.
How does a parent deal with a young adult who is not open to professional help. Can you suggest strategies that will minimize the chance of him bringing harm upon himself?
Regards, J.
LadyAstrael gave this response on 5/20/2000:
He does need help. And your fears are not too uncommon. I have had those feeling before. I believe he may be suffering from Major Depresive Disorder. Does he have mood swings? And feel like no one cares if he lives or not and that he wishes he has never been born? If you can answer yes then he is having trouble with Major Depression. Medicine will help him, but you said he won't take it. I would suggest that you and your wife see a therapist and talk to them about your son and try to work with them to help him. I can't help but wonder also what happened to him on his visit overseas, did he happen to fall in love with someone? that would be a good cause for depression, but then again depression shows up in many people differently. I suggest you both start with the therapist and see what they have to say. Ask for help from your doctor in getting a refferal, tell the doctor what is going on. There is help, if you need anyone to talk to just ask I will be here. Take care and keep me informed. Lady Astrael
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