TAKE MY HUSBAND...PLEASE. Three articles posted on FEMINISM

From:    Chris Sonnack
Subject: 3 Articles

 This morning the St.Paul paper had a few choice tidbits that I
 thought worthy of posting.  (This paper contains a good deal of
 coverage on women's events -- not surprising when you realize
 that the Publisher/President is Mary Junck and the Managing
 Editor/News is Mindi Keirnan.)  [My comments in next post.]

	The latest edition of _Working Women_, the get-ahead rule book
	for women on the way up, notes that it's not enough to be masterly,
	efficient, intelligent and beautiful: You've got to leave them
	rolling in the aisles, too.

	According to Barbara Mackoff, author of _What Mona Lisa Knew: A
	Woman's Guide to Getting Ahead in Business by Lightening Up_
	(Lowell House/Contemporary Books), humor is the 'ultimate polish'
	for the would-be executive.  'For women, though,' says the
	magazine, 'getting onto the new corporate laugh track can be a
	little tricky.'

	Some rules of office humor:

	* If you have no natural sense of humor, 'if you are certain you
	  have no knack for quips and jokes, a whimsical touch in your
	  office -- like a cartoon on your bulletin board -- is a good
	  way to communicate your humorous perspective to co-workers.'

	* Don't use jokes that you need to preface with 'I hope this
	  won't offend anyone, but...'

	* Mix humorous cartoons (such as _The Far Side_) 'with your
	  overhead transparencies of charts and outlines.'  (The experts
	  remind you to be sure to read the caption aloud.)

	* Use jokes when times get tough.  Got to lay off 50 workers?
	  'Momentarily remove yourself from a stressful situation by
	  reframing the event in your mind as a half-hour situation

	For lo these past two years, the Australian quarterly magazine
	_Big, Beautiful Women_ has nourished its 30,000 full-figured
	readers with such articles as 'The Problems of Being Well-Endowed',
	'Fat, Food, Diets and Me' and 'Dumplings Are Delicious'.  But
	owing to a shortage of advertising for cosmetics and fashions, the
	magazine is folding.

	'Basically the reaction from these manufacturers would be we
	don't advertise in anything to do with fat people,' editor Kathy
	Moyd says.  'They wanted them [the clothes] modeled on smaller
	women, either size 14 or smaller.'

	According to _The Great Divide_ (Poseidon Press) by Daniel Even
	Weiss, 60 percent of conversations between women are about personal
	or emotional topics -- as opposed to just 27 percent of the
	conversations between men.


 (My comments on the previous three quoted articles.)

 I suppose there are some that will perceive this as "men telling
 us what we 'ought' to do...again" or possibly that women are
 being told (again) to "act like men in order to succeed."

 If I thought that, I wouldn't have posted the article.

 What I think is that over the years certain things have been found
 to //work// with //people//.  It's a fact that most of those people
 have been men, but it's less of a fact (IMO) that the sex of the
 people involved matters in all situations.

 Anyway, all I'm saying is that I agree that humor is one of the most
 important things in almost any endeavor.  The people I have the very
 least regard for in life are those that take themselves (and life)

 Remember -- there is NO evidence of any kind that suggests that life
 is supposed to be serious and considerable evidence that it is not.

 This is a damn shame on at least two levels.  It's a shame that the
 clothing makers actually //refuse// to target a (pardon the pun) large
 audience and it's a shame the ("down under") magazine is going under.

 Wonder if massive user support could save it??

 I imagine this is cultural as I can't think of anything that would
 intrinsically make women different from men in this regard.  At least
 not a lot.  Pretty impressive stats if they hold up across the general
 population -- quite a bit more than double.

 Opinions on why?  Opinions on the relative value of either?

 * Origin: The Terraboard, Minneapolis MN (1:282/341.0)