Anonymous asked this question on 7/13/2000:

I'm a 30 year-old, female real estate agent who works in a affluent area, selling condo's out of a building that's just converted. I myself live in a middle-class area with my father. I meet alot of well-to-do men, because I'm attractive. However once I tell them I still live at home, they get turned off, or treat me in a condensing way. I do pay my father rent, and own my own vehicle, I'm also practically debt free. I do plan on moving out, once I have enough savings & downpayment. If I meet someone in the meanwhile, should I lie? Or avoid the subject?

Desertphile gave this response on 7/13/2000:

Lying is a poor way to start off ANY relationship, let alone one that may lead to romance and affection. Instead of avoiding the subject, you could tell the person that it is a private issue and that for the present time you wish to not discuss it--- that is the truth, after all. A person (yourself) has the right to keep private things private.

For those men who think that "living at home" is some kind of "alarm bell" and they thus avoid you, it's THIER loss! They have given up knwoing you based on incomplete information: they did not even care to explore the issue (not that it is any of their business!).

If a man cannot accept you and your decisions, such as "living at home" for a while, well hell, in my opinion he isn't worth dating. It's a matter of respect: you have reasons for what you do, and no one should "second guess" those reasons.