Anonymous asked this question on 6/27/2000:
Seeking multiple answers. I'm not that popular with the ladies. I am an average looking 39 year old guy, single and never married. I would like to meet someone, but don't really know how to approach women, what to say, what to wear or where the best places are to meet them! Moreover, I am not really attracted to women my age -only younger ones! Can anybody help me out?
Magic7474 gave this response on 7/12/2000:
The first thing you have to do is change the picture you have...of yourself...You titled your question a Dating Nerd....that in itself is negitive thinking and negitive self talk...There are more women out there than you could ever hope to count let alone spen time with...BUT...you have to understand that you have to have confidence in your self and in who you are....Confidence is going after Moby Dick in a rowboat and taking the tarter sauce with you... Now how do you get this confidence....and how do you change the picture you have of your self....One of the best in my never to be humbe opinion..is to get some books or tapes by a man named Zig Ziglar...He is truely a giant in the field of Motivation and confidence building...I have some of his books located on my web site....But you can also go to www.nconnant.com ( I think thats right) and check out their collection of tapes. As far as what you can do right now...Remember that women are just as lonely as you are...but they are most of the time much more selective of who they pick as a mate. They are seeking someone who cna be a good provider, and protector...and someone who would make a good father...Now dont get ahead of me here...That doesnt mean that you are looking to marry everyone you date...its just a heads up as to what women are looking for.... Assuming that you are clean and wear deodorant,brush your teeth,and cna speak in an articulate manner...then you are half way home. If you go out to find a friend...you are going to have a hard time...but if you go out to BE a friend....you will find they are all over...You will end up just about tripping over all the available women out there. Find some clubs and organizations that YOU enjoy going to...Be your self...Dont try to be James Bond....As to opening lines...here ia a never fail one...."Hi...How are you?"...Cant hardly go wrong with that one...It really works....
Best of luck to you
Magic