Anonymous asked this question on 7/12/2000:

Men:

In most of your responses there is an indication that in acts other than making love, there is no emotional involvement. Is this what you really feel? You see, when I am kissed romantically, I am involved emotionally. When I am involved in the depths of passion, the words I utter are emotional unless I have no soul! That is who we are as women I believe. How could we offer of ourselves so freely without also sharing our emotional being? Thoughts on this are deeply appreciated.

Rhaven gave this response on 7/12/2000:

Greetings..

As stated in my previous answer, when people make love, they are giving themselves totally to their significant other..

When people are just having sex for the sheer pleasure of fulfilling the flesh, it is most likely that both persons share little to no emotional attachment if they are not in a committed relationship..

When both persons are just having sex for whatever reason, there may be some emotional attachment but not much if the people are not romantically involved..

Personally, I have had relationships where I have thrown myself (body, mind, and soul; physically, mentally, and emotionally) into the acts of making love, having sex, and pure fulfillment of the flesh.. Why? Because I had an established relationship with my significant other; we understood each other sexually, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually..

Not all men (and women) are the same.. I know some men (and women) who only have sex for their own fulfillment and think little to nothing of their significant other's or whomever they are with.. Then there are some men (and women) who develope an attachment (for lack of a better term) with strangers with whom they have sex..

The answers to your questions will draw a mix of responses.. Yet, in this question, you point out the fact that when you are kissed romantically, then you pour yourself into it emotionally.. If a man's (or woman's) goal is to obtain sex for the purposes of making love, just to have it, or to make animals call the police for the noise you are making, then a romantic kiss may be the price to pay for the end result.. Also from your question, it may be read that you give yourself (body, mind, and soul) without restraint.. However, this is without knowing if you are in a committed relationship..

People in a committed relationship will approach the three with varying degrees of emotion due to the bond(s) they share.. However, even they will have moments when emotion is an inconvenience..

Either way (committed relationship or not), the emotional pendulum swings wildly..

I hope I have been of service to you or someone else..

Anonymous asked this follow-up question on 7/12/2000:

Lightbulb moment! You mean the romantic kiss is what you would give to get what you wanted?>?????! Tell me this is not true.

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