Anonymous asked this question on 7/12/2000:

well here goes, my boyfriend and i are in a very long distance relationship, and we've met twice, once for nine days and once for 17 days, the first time we met, i was a virgin, so he was very gentle with me, and we moved very slowly, but the thing is when we were both ready, he couldnt get an erection, so we figured it was a combination of things, his worry over hurting me, the distance he'd traveled, anxiety over wanting it to be perfect, and so on. well the second time we met, he could get an erection, but could not keep it, so we still didnt make love properly, he says he's never had problems before, and when i talk to him on the phone now, (dont read the rest if youre easily offended) he gets hard and comes, so im wondering whats wrong with me? i mean how come when we're together we have problems, he assures me that its nothing to do with me, but im having a hard time believing that much longer any advice would be appreciated thanks

physicskw gave this response on 7/12/2000:

He is quite correct when he says that you are not the problem. If he does not have a medical problem then he has a psychological problem. His subconcious is telling his body that sex is not right and so his body is refusing to perform. He needs to get a check up from his family doctor to make sure there is nothing wrong, which there does not appear to be from your question. He then needs to seek counseling so that he can get to the root of the mental problem that is keeping him from performing.

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