Anonymous asked this question on 7/12/2000:

I dated this guy for a couple of months over the course of which I lost my virginity to him. before school ( college) got out for the summer I showed up and basically asked what the deal was. He seemed to be pretty honest and basically said he wasn't ready for a serious relationship because of his ex. and that He was going to europe. After the talk I spent the night and went to leave the next morning and he was like come here.. and we kissed. Since then we haven't talked because he refuses too. I also found out that after he got back from europe.. He had sex with his ex again, which he referred to as a whore.. and is going after his professor's daughter. I don't know why I can't seem to let go .. and don't really understand why he couldn't have just said "were done" and left it at that. Instead of hanging up the phone on me, when I call to talk. On top of which I feel stupid for falling for him because he seems like such a player and that I never meant anything to him.

sweetsillyblonde gave this response on 7/12/2000:

The only reason i think your holding on is because he was the first person you had sex with. You will always remember him. About you wishing he would of just told you it was over men are like that, they like to play mind games with women. Plus maybe this guy doesn't do what he wants yet. Your not stupid you just happen to fall for the wrong guy. Don't worry everything will be okay. You will find a better man who treats you right. Well i hope i helped you. GOOD LUCK!!