cherrichild asked this question on 7/12/2000:
I am 20 years old and usually VERY responsible. But this past weekend I went to a party and got too plowed and had sex with a complete stranger. (I totally came on to him, though) I am just sick to my stomach every time I think about it now so I have called him to set up a time to "just talk". I am definitely NOT intersted in pursuing a relationship but maybe we could be friends? I know that we should discuss our histories, diseases, etc. But what else should we discuss that will help me come to terms with what I have done? Sex is a big deal to me and that is why I am shocked at my own behavior. I feel absolutely horrible.
physicskw gave this response on 7/12/2000:
Cherrichild:
There is nothing that you can discuss with him that will help you come to terms with yourself. In fact I am not sure a meeting to discuss histories and diseases will be productive. If he has given you a STD that you did not want or made you pregnant it is too late to talk about it. You need to go to your doctor and have a blood test for all the STDs including AIDS. You will need to repeat the AIDS test in 6 months. If any of the STDs show up then your doctor can treat you for them.
It is too late for the morning after pill which has to be taken within 72 hours of having sex, so if you got pregnant then you will have to decide what you are going to do.
If you do have an STD the health department will want to know who your sexual partners were and they will contact him for testing. If you are pregnant then will be time to sit down with him so he can start planning what steps he needs to take to provide for the baby if you decide to have it.
When you are searching for an answer, look hard at the alcohol angle. Why did you allow yourself to get "ploughed"? What has been going on that got you to this point? The alcohol is responsible for loosening your inhibitions so that you had sex, and it had nothing to do with your thoughts on sex. If a woman drinks enough she will eventually get to the point she will have sex, which is why the courts allow a woman that got drunk to say she did not consent to sex. The root of the problem lies in what caused you to drink so much.
Please let me know if I can be of further assistance.
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