Anonymous asked this question on 7/11/2000:

My toughtest relationships have been those where I have become close to a girl across time and she holds back somewhat. That is ok --- sort of. As you might expect, something "gives" in the end and the relationship just doesn't work out. The girls seem somewhat surprised in the end that they can't "have their cake and eat it too." Those feelings that they know of being "loved," admired, and cared for so often are so wonderful because they come from someone that sees them as more than "just a friend." Why do these girls seem to think that such strong feelings from a guy really need to be aimed at a girl that can feel the same? I will admit that these relationships have tended to end on a sour note, but if I were a girl, I would not expect it to end with no one being hurt. The reason I'm writing this is that I guess I'm allowing myself to feel "guilty" that they don't end smoothly. But, that sounds like a joke to expect that if much time and effort has been put into the relationship.

Why do girls "relish" being cherished by someone unless they feel the same?

saiyenprince45 gave this response on 7/12/2000:

Because they want someone that will like what they do and will do things with them not only what you want to do.