Anonymous asked this question on 7/11/2000:

Hi, I need some advice. Alright here goes me and my boyfriend (scott) have been dating for a year and a half but during this time I've spent alot of time with one of my bestfriends (joey). I've been into Joey a while and spent alot of time with him even with my bf there (okay there's a group of us 20 or so were all like bestfriends). So like 3 months ago Joey got in a accident on his sport bike(like a nija) and was in a coma for 3 weeks and couldn't talk for 3 after that now he's still in the hospital but is like so in love with me and I know he liked me before but I'm not sure if he's lonely or just in love with me for begning there through this life changing almost dealth sitution of his. Also with my current bf he'll be upset with us both and possibily turn my other friends that mean so much to me away from me and joey both. But I think I love Joey to and plan to move in with my sister this week I live with my bf now and start seeing joey . tell me what you think. please something I need some direction in this sitution.

tink1972 gave this response on 7/12/2000:

When you go against the grain and start dating a person who was friends with your man then expect some negative treatment to come your way! Because most people just don't do that! They don't hook up with people that our mutual friends of you both.

So, be prepared for some bullcrap because I'm almst certain there will be plenty of it.

Also, Joey went through that life threatening accident and you were there from the beginning, as you mentioned. Some people can start to think that they owe a person something for the kindness and loyalty that they have received, so I think you should clarify this with Joey before you make any hasty decisions.

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