Anonymous asked this question on 7/10/2000:
okay i'm 18 and my b/f of almost 2 years bestfriend is or has already fell for me and i'm falling for me and my b/f have to many problems his friend is a sweetheart i really like him. help me i'm so confused what should i do in this sitution?
Omega2000 gave this response on 7/10/2000:
Anonymous: you are a young woman with a lot of living and loving to experince. Some will be good and some not so good. If you are really interested in this other young man,then you really should consider breaking up with your boyfriend.You stated there were many problems with your two year relationship. It could be that you are growing as a person with new ideas and interests.His friend is not the problem. His friend represents a way out for you. You are just ready to move on to someone new. Its perfectly natural to want to move on with life and the wonderful things it can offer us as human beings. Just sit yourself down and get real. Talk to your boyfriend and let him know how you are feeling about where the relationship stands. After the break up, I want you to have some fun and run around with the girls for a while.Leave your boyfriends friend alone. After all if he was a real friend to him, he wouldn't be sweatin you like that.You have two years of friendship with your boyfriend and I know you don't want to add salt to his injury by sleeping or dating his friend. Be good to yourself and the ones that you love by always giving respect.Wishing you all the success you are awaiting. Omega2000
Omega2000 gave this follow-up answer on 7/12/2000:
Anonoymous: I know the truth isn't always what we want to hear. I am also aware that as a young woman you may or may not understand why you should not act on any feelings that you may have.We don't act on them,because they are just wrong or may cause pain to the ones that mean the most to us and even to our self. I feel as if you wanted a reason to throw caution to the wind and vaildate your feeling to go with it.You really do have a resposibility to yourself and those that care and love you. Good luck with your choices. Omega2000
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