Anonymous asked this question on 7/12/2000:
I have had this friend for a good many years; while I became a plain common person, he is quite the opposite: 32, very handsome, athletic (played football a lot), gets on easily with people, graduated from a famous place, he is smart and professionally very successful. The proverbial winner... Well, we were taking about girls the other day and he confided to me that "no woman can resist him, single or otherwise" if he really wants to have her. Of course I was bothered by this bragging (although he DOES get a lot of beauties) and mentioned married girls that I did not think would fall for his advances; he answered with a sly smile that he was sure they would think about him as they cuddled with their boyfriends or husbands. I was shocked because even discounting the bragging he DID seem to believe that. This left me saddened, because on thinking about it I feel that many beautiful people may also be like that. Now for the question: is it really so, beauty/success are irresistible? And even if that may be so, is a girl being unfaithful if she DOES remeber such a person while with her loved one?
Omega2000 gave this response on 7/12/2000:
It sounds as if your friend is very confident in himself.There is really nothing wrong with feeling like you are all that and a bag of chips. The problem comes in when you set out to use and hurt others for personal pleasure.You should be concerned for your friend,because with all that he has going on to the ones looking from the outside,inside there sounds like a man that feels the need to be what others expect of him.Chances are he is a very lonely man within.As for your question about women cheating when they think about him when with their lover...well I think it depends on what degree are they thinking.He may be surprised that there are women that may find him attractive and yet would never betray their love one for even a one night stand.At the same time it could be considered cheating if she pretends that her lover is someone she would have liked to be with in an intimate way.So you see all your friend is getting is women who only want to spend time with him without knowing or caring who he really is on the inside.Until he changes some of his ways he may never experince a truly loving relationship like the rest of us.Try to get him to dig deep into himself to rid himself of the pain and frustration that he lives with daily. The best to you for being a good friend. Omega2000
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