CatGirl25 asked this question on 7/11/2000:

Hi. I am a 25 year old single mom of a 9 month old. I really want to have a relationship with a man. It is hard for me to get out to go to clubs, ect. Therefore, I have been meeting men online. My problem is that I really have no babysitter so I can't come and go as I please. Will I find a man who will understand and put up with this? Right now I am interested in this one guy. He lives 2 hours away and wants to meet half way sometimes. How do I explain that I can not just do this on call? And that my daughter will most likely have to tag along?....Thanks

Toria365 gave this response on 7/11/2000:

This is going to be a hard time for you. Your daughter is still so young and dependant on you. I'm know what it's like, I have two toddlers. It's hard to start a relationship with a man and not feel awkward about the inclusion of your child. But therein lies the true test. Any guy worth getting involved with is going to be someone who is accepting of you and your daughter. He'll understand that you're not a carefree 19 yr old and he'll respect you even more for it. I'm sure you don't expect this guy to waltz in and play daddy, but he should understand that your daughter is going to take priority in your life. I know you need a break from the rigors of being "mom" 24 hours a day, that it'd be nice to feel young and free again. I've been there! Honestly a little of both is best for everyone. You need to feel rejuvinated by having a part of your life that's just for you meanwhile also having a strong bond with your daughter. A mature man will be able to handle this and go from romantic dates alone with you to fun dates at the shore or park. I wish you the best of luck, it'll take time but you'll know when the man and the circumstances are right for you. Take care! Toria

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