Anonymous asked this question on 7/9/2000:
I have beeen dateing this girl for about 3 months now. Everthing is going good exept that when we have sex she orgasms right away. I mean after a few minutes of intercourse. Which is ok I guess exept that she usually wants to stop. I wish she would let me just keep goin though...I mean I cant IMAGINE WHAT IT FEELS LIKE to her after you come. I mean she does have a really intense orgasm now and then so its good for her I have tried to talk to her about it , I told her to "IMAGE IT from my side how when YOU JUST COME right away and want to stop it leaves me hangin.. she told me that when we are makeing love she feels this really intense feeling in her abdomen that builds like a volcano and the erups and the more you try to control it the more it just overflows...she said she has been this way allways and I shouldnt complain....I just wish she would be able to prolong her ORGASM or LAST LONGER..do you know of any technique for women to do? I have tried too by going slower etc and she still COME FAST NO MATTER WHAT
behappy4u gave this response on 7/10/2000:
That is wonderful that she orgasms right away but she is being very selfish to you. I also orgasm right away and if Im on top I usually have to stop because it starts to tickle real bad but I never leave him hanging,we change positions or I please him orally.Being on top is the only position that usually does that for me.(makes it tickle afterwards) She is missing out on alot because after the first one she can continue to come over and over. Its called multiorgasm. Talk to her and tell her that its not being fair to you,explain to her that she can continue to orgasm and it will be wonderful. It sounds selfish of her that she gets hers and then she is done and their is no way my boyfriend would put up with that so I think you have been very patient.It almost sounds like a bad excuse because if she were to continue until you get yours then she would have mutipule orgasms and all would be happy.I would seriuosly have a talk with her and explain all this.Good Luck and if you have any more questions please let me know
Anonymous asked this follow-up question on 7/10/2000:
thanks for the good input...just a few more things though. So should I just slow down after she orgasms the first time? I have tried this once before I remember when we were haveing sex one time I slowed down and moved it slower and the same result...is there a specif way we should do this with eachother when we are makeing love together? when you are on top and you are comeing...is there a specif way we should do it to keep orgasming? I mean when you are on top and have your orgasm do you change positions right after? I mean the oral sex we have is good too and Im not complaing to you about this its just it would be nice if like you said we could just keep on going and have multiples... other than this our realationship is great you know what I mean? This is my only challange and she seems to be giving in other areas too so thanks agian
behappy4u gave this response on 7/10/2000:
Oh I misunderstood I thought she was leaving you hanging.I only change positions if I am on top but if he is on top i dont have to switch it dosnt tickle as much. Slow is good it prolongs it.I guess you and my boyfriend should be grateful alot of guys complain that it takes to long for women to orgasm. I guess they are just with the wrong guy LOL
Anonymous asked this follow-up question on 7/10/2000:
Yeah..she dosent leave me hanging...I would have dumpted her long ago if thats how she acted in bed... we tried it last night and she came agian and hard... we talked about it to before and after...not much time during(LOL)I asked her how it was being on top this time we did it slower after she came and we just kept going and I could really it get wetter..and we just kept going till she came agian and then I did shortly after I think we like it better this way she told me We do have it good ME and your BOYFRIEND are the SAME in that way! Im totally grateful...you helped allot it helpes to have a kindred spirit...your BF is a lucky guy to have such an intellegent girlfriend...you must be 100% happy...
behappy4u gave this response on 7/10/2000:
Thanks you made my night .Write back anytime
Anonymous asked this follow-up question on 7/10/2000:
Right on \:)so tell me whats your secret to a succesful realationship?
behappy4u gave this response on 7/11/2000:
I think the main thing is not to ever take each other for granted.We take time for one another and we have lots of sex. I never turn him down even if Im tired. I always relize their are alot of people out their and if hes not getting it at home,he can get somewhere else easily.We have a far from perfect relationship but its working so far after 7 yrs I still have the hots for him. Good Luck you sound like a wonderful boyfriend to have
Anonymous asked this follow-up question on 7/11/2000:
Thats another thing I need help with...I mean how do you know your not being taken for granted... I think we are the same..we just make time for each other and we turn each other on. Its funny you eluded to this..she asked me that the other night..how do I turn you on? I mean If you think about it most people dont know for example what turns you on?
behappy4u gave this response on 7/11/2000:
I think being taken for granted means so many things.I think one thing that bothers me in some relationships is when 2 people are together awhile they feel they no longer need to impress that person with their looks or actions. My boyfriend and I know when it comes to the weekend its ours. I always wear something sexy and try and look my best and he does the same.We sit and have a couple beers,listen to the radio nothing exciting but I always make sure I look good and so does he. I also think you know your not being taken for granted when she makes time for just you too. When she does little things for you just to make you happy.I never want to be in one of those relationships where I dont leave because " Im comfortable" I hear that a lot. I want to stay in love and I think that is possible but its hard work on both parts.My boyfriend is never one to give me compliments or anything like that. He kids and says my head is already big enough. See Thier are a million things I would change about him if I could but what I always try to do is focus on his good qualites.What I always try and remeber is to treat those you love like it may be thier last day on earth. I know this sounds extreme but I have lost so many people in my family the past couple years so its real important to me.You sound like you really seem like you have your act together. Most guys would not be so concerned.I wish the best to you and write back anytime. My name is Kim by the way
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