dino890 asked this question on 7/11/2000:

i was going out with this guy for 3 month. We had sex wich i felt that i forced into. Suddenly he decides that he wants to go with my friend. He says that we can still have sex and going out. Does he still like me and how could i get him back since my friend doesn't like him.

shrink4u gave this response on 7/11/2000:

Dear dino890,

I hate to say anything, because I know it's not going to be what you want to hear!

My honest view is that this guy doesn't want a relationship, but SEX, without any obligations. Plus he wants freedom to go out with other girls. He wants the appearance of being free, so he can date others, but he wants to keep you hooked, so he can have sex with you when he's bored or can't find someone else to go out with.

He's using you.

Please don't feel that any of this is your fault. Also, don't make the mistake of thinking anything you do would change the way he feels about you. It's perfectly normal to expect a boyfriend to want to spend time with you, talk, and go places with you. That's what a relationship is all about.

It sounds to me that it's definitely easier for this guy to have casual sex, no strings attached. Try feeling sorry for him - seems like he doesn't know how to even come close to anything resembling a real relationship! I pity the woman who marries him. He's got problems!

Try to let him go and get on with your life. There are other men out there. Take your time and find someone who will treat you with respect - you deserve more than he's willing or able to give. Take care and very best wishes!

Much love

Mary