Anonymous asked this question on 7/11/2000:

My toughtest relationships have been those where I have become close to a girl across time and she holds back somewhat. That is ok --- sort of. As you might expect, something "gives" in the end and the relationship just doesn't work out. The girls seem somewhat surprised in the end that they can't "have their cake and eat it too." Those feelings that they know of being "loved," admired, and cared for so often are so wonderful because they come from someone that sees them as more than "just a friend." Why do these girls seem to think that such strong feelings from a guy really need to be aimed at a girl that can feel the same? I will admit that these relationships have tended to end on a sour note, but if I were a girl, I would not expect it to end with no one being hurt. The reason I'm writing this is that I guess I'm allowing myself to feel "guilty" that they don't end smoothly. But, that sounds like a joke to expect that if much time and effort has been put into the relationship.

Why do girls "relish" being cherished by someone unless they feel the same?

freeblueone gave this response on 7/11/2000:

theirs no reason to feel guilty unless you feel you didnt do all you could to help your relantionship along if you faild to give 110% but most relationships do end up with one or both partys hating each other pride has a lot to do with it and embarisment is the other one and the though of being used. to be admired and though of by someone in all good sences is all peoples wish some say its not but would you rather be though of a great guy or a jurk it does matter

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