foxjay asked this question on 7/8/2000:

I have been going with my girlfriend for about 5 months. Our realationship started off as friends..she was in a bad dealationship at the time. And we became closer as a result of this...she broke up with that guy and we started haveing an intimate realationship after this. Then she goes out one weekend with her girlfriend and meets this guy and starts to hang out with him without telling me. Then one night she showed up late and when I asked why she was late she said she hung out with this guy that she met a few weeks ago..and she didnt want to tell me because she didnt want me to freakout...Then she told me sha has alot of guy friends and she allways will and I "will just have to get use to it" So if there are any guys are girls out there who are in or have been in a similar situation I could use some input on this..

Silvrain gave this response on 7/11/2000:

Haven't I heard this before! My man is the same way you are. You have good reason to be suspisious. Some girls are like that. But me personally, I just get along with guys better that I do girls. Girls tend to stab you in the back, and lie to you. Whereas, guys are more laid back, and just like to have fun. They don't care about the he said she said stuff that girls do. No gossip, no cat fights, and it's actually cool having someone like a big brother around at times. Examine the situation vey carefully. Do you honestly think that she would do something like that to you??? I you don't then, they are probably just innocent friends. But, if you're not sure, watch he behavior around them, or when she gets back from hanging out with them. Being a girl myself, I know some sure-fire signs that she's cheating. Unless she is a really good liar, and can look you in the eyes and lie to you bold face. If she seems in a hurry to get comfy, or take a shower, or if she's being way too sweet for her normal self. Walking in and going straight to her room is a very good one. If she comes home dressed really really nicely like dresses or clubbing outfits, stay calm and just ask her where she went. And if she had a good time. Listen for the tones in her voice when she answers you. If she just says "fine." to brush your question off, then there's probably something she doesn't want to talk about that happened. I hope that I helped you a little.