Anonymous asked this question on 7/10/2000:
Me and many girlfriend have been together for nearly 18 months. She has been deep in Love with me and wanted to spend her life with me.
I Love her as well but I asked for some space in the beginning of June. I asked for that space because I couldnt see how she was transmitting her feelings for me as it wasnt obvious.
2 days later i didnt want that space as i had realised that she has been showing her feelings for me in her own way which she is comfertable with. But she said that she doesnt know if she can trust me with her feelings and that what if next time i break up for good..so now she wanted space to sort her head out.
I wrote her a long letter confirming my true love for her so after 3 weeks we met 2-3 times...got on...kissed and cuddled. But we still hadnt talked about the situation and sorted things out...
The other day we talked and she told me that she does still Love me but doesnt feel the same powerful love as she did before i asked for some space. She said that she is now not clear about whether i am the man she wants to spend her life with. She does want to sort things out and does hope that things will be ok.
I told her that she cant go back into that powerful love again overnight...it will take time. She understood that and said that 'we'll see how things go'.
So please can you tell me: what can i do to make her fall more in love with me again, as she was before ?
What should i avoid doing ?
Thanks in Advance
freeblueone gave this response on 7/10/2000:
you need to be their for her when she needs you not taking a leve of absents when she needs you the most youll have to rebuild her trust and be their when she needs you even the smsllest things and the things that seem dum or sily to you their the most emportent things to a woman start romancing her all over again with more intent then befor flowers canndle lite dinners takeing her out more offten pinics walks things the two of you can do together avoid telling what shes woried over is stupped or dum forgetting a big date like when you met your first kiss not showing up for a date not calling to find out how shes feeling or telling her how much you love her and what would do with her