Anonymous asked this question on 7/10/2000:

I'm 24 and my boyfriend is 29. We've been dating for a little over a year and plan to get married. We've been friends for 10 years, and dated very briefly when I was 16 (he broke my heart pretty bad).

now that you know the background, here is the problem. I found out a couple days ago that he "made out" with 2 girls at the same time. I've met them before, and it's possible that'll meet them again. I think if it didn't happen in a public place, that it would have gone further.

I'll make it clear that we weren't dating at the time, just friends. I can't figure out why it bothers me so much. He's a great guy, and claims that he couldn't have sex with someone without there being emotion involved. This just seems to uncharacteristic(?) of him.

Why does this bother me so much and how can I get over it?

freeblueone gave this response on 7/10/2000:

for one it sounds like he was your first love and it in its self will be hard to get over and you said he said he needs emotion to get involved with somebody then he got cought with two girls at the same time it blows the emotion thery out the window and your thinking when he was with you was it a put on or just for what he could get or was it for real remember the good from the relationship forget the bad and dont let it bother you its not worth it move on

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