Anonymous asked this question on 7/3/2000:

My girlfriend doesnt love herself....so that means that she has supressed her feelings for me and cant love me properly. She says she loves me but doesnt show it..probably because she doesnt love herself.

Its been like this since I have known her...4 yrs and we have been going out for 1.5 yrs.

How do i help her to love herself. ?

and more importantly what should i avoid doing ?

thanks

mitchelr gave this response on 7/10/2000:

There is a problem with her self-esteem. There is nothing you can do if she has no desire to help herself. Hey I married a lady once, just like your lady, problem wise. Everything I did was of short or no effect. after 9 yrs. she said I deserced better nad left.. So I have seen the same with some of my friends and they had no sucess either.. If she is mature enough to realize she has a problem and seeks help then half the battle is won. It is a shame to see a woman go thru this stuff. Us men so want to help. But the person has to want to help theirselves frist. A good Bible believing church would tell her to come as you are. Christ will do the changes if she seeks His Salivation. I wish the best for the both of you..MitchelrRN.