Anonymous asked this question on 7/9/2000:

I have beeen dateing this girl for about 3 months now. Everthing is going good exept that when we have sex she orgasms right away. I mean after a few minutes of intercourse. Which is ok I guess exept that she usually wants to stop. I wish she would let me just keep goin though...I mean I cant IMAGINE WHAT IT FEELS LIKE to her after you come. I mean she does have a really intense orgasm now and then so its good for her I have tried to talk to her about it , I told her to "IMAGE IT from my side how when YOU JUST COME right away and want to stop it leaves me hangin.. she told me that when we are makeing love she feels this really intense feeling in her abdomen that builds like a volcano and the erups and the more you try to control it the more it just overflows...she said she has been this way allways and I shouldnt complain....I just wish she would be able to prolong her ORGASM or LAST LONGER..do you know of any technique for women to do? I have tried too by going slower etc and she still COME FAST NO MATTER WHAT

courtneysmom gave this response on 7/10/2000:

Dear anonymous:

If you've read any of the other responses I have given, you know this is coming. I do not condone you and your girlfriend having sex, first of all, because I think that should be reserved for marriage between two committed individuals. I know your question did not ask about my opinion on that subject, but I would be remiss if I didn't add my two cents in about that. You see, relationships make sex meaningful, sex does not make relationships meaningful, and that could be a part of what you're missing. You see, if she really respected a had a deep concern for you, she would have the desire to restrain herself and be a little more focused on making sure you are pleased as well. You can't have a mutually satisfying sexual relationship if you are only focused on getting your own needs met. If she can't stop herself from climaxing, she should at least be willing to do her part to see that you too are satisfied, after she is fulfilled. Does she do that? I can't imagine a woman unwilling to do that. I don't know of any techniques that will prolong her orgasms, but you might try telling her that if she'd focus a little more on helping you achieve your climax, she might surprise herself and have multiple orgasms. She might really be interested in this, she can come over and over again probably, and this will perhaps give you a chance to catch up. Sorry I can't be more helpful. Good Luck!

courtneysmom

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