studly asked this question on 7/13/2000:

My girlfriend gave me a leatherbound journal to write poems in. Once, after a fight, I got so frustrated and had to vent. I wrote an angry poem about her, hitting sore spots, such as her losing her baby, not finishing school, etc. It made me feel worse, I called her that same night and we made up. However, I didn't throw it out because it was MY journal. When I moved last week, she opened it and read it when I wasn't around. She is so hurt and ashamed, she said that not even her worst enemy could say those kinds of things. I was just venting, I love her with all of my heart. She is so mad she barely talks to me. I'm afraid of losing her. I'm afraid of trying too hard to fix things. I've sent her an electronic card saying I'm sorry, I've held her hands and told her that I didn't mean that, it was just for me, but she is still giving me the cold shoulder. Any advice as to how to smooth this over? I've been with her since December, and I can't lose her over something this stupid, a poem that I wrote two months ago. Please help me, I feel so sick.

Weddinggrrl gave this response on 7/13/2000:

Unfortunately, these things were extremely hurtful to her. It probably hurts her more that these were feelings you kept secret. I'm sure she feels very betrayed, and betrayal isn't overcome easily. Keep trying to convince her that you didn't mean those things, and your anger took over your senses. Hopefully she'll forgive, but there's a good chance she won't. I'm sorry you have to go through this!