arsmith36 asked this question on 7/13/2000:

I am seeing a man who has a 7 year old daughter. I didn't think much of it, since I love kids, especially little girls. But his daughter is not too happy when I'm around. Also, he spoils her rotten, so when she does start pouting, he drops everything and tends to her . He admits he does spoil her, and that her behavior has been unacceptable the last time I was around. She was pouting, walking away, and being a general spoiled kid. I have a hard time with this behaviour, as I think strong parenting includes discipline and respect. So, I am not sure how to proceed with this. When it is just the 2 of us - it's great - he is so sweet, attentive, and just really great, and we have great chemistry. but I know that is not the entire package. Any advice for me? How should we as a couple proceed - we have talked about ways we can try to get through this time, and even went to the bookstore to try to find a book on it (no luck yet).

DLM4u gave this response on 7/13/2000:

It sounds to me that the seven year old is simply jealous of the attention that is being taken away from her because you are around. Instead of making an incomplete love triangle, maybe you should try to make a healthy relationship with her... alone. Take her to the gas station, grocery store, or to lunch. How about a movie, or time at the park. A picnic at the park is always a fun way to get to know someone. Make her feel special, so she knows she is cared for by you. I know you probibly don't have much time to be with your boyfriend, but I think a little time well spent in her honor will do all three of you a great favor. She will have the love of her father, the attention of you, and less anxiety of your visits. Hope it works! -Dena