Anonymous asked this question on 7/13/2000:

Hi.

I have a problem I've delt with for most of my life. I can not cum from masturbation nor from oral sex. Of course, because of that problem, another arises. I have difficulty lasting more than 5-15 minutes in bed. This poses a problem because my current girlfriend takes MUCH longer than that to be satisfied. I've tried numerous things to help me with my problem. I've purchased toys (I bought a vibrator for when she comes over and I can't satisfy her) but I want to be the one giving her pleasure. I don't mind having her cum all over the thing but I would like, just once, to feel her cum with it being me inside her. Anyway, I also tried getting a perscription for viagra. That helps.. (a little) see, all that does is help me get an erection again in a shorter ammount of time. I want to wait until she's done before exploding inside her.

If anyone has any suggestions, they'd be well appreciated.

Thanks, Longing to last longer

DLM4u gave this response on 7/13/2000:

I want you to know something. You are perfectly normal. I have been with men that also have had this problem. Try getting her close with oral sex, or have sex with her while she places the vibrater on her clitorus. Most women cannot orgasm from the stimulation that sex provides. So an external stimuli works wonders. Hope this helps, -Dena