arsmith36 asked this question on 7/13/2000:

I am seeing a man who has a 7 year old daughter. I didn't think much of it, since I love kids, especially little girls. But his daughter is not too happy when I'm around. Also, he spoils her rotten, so when she does start pouting, he drops everything and tends to her . He admits he does spoil her, and that her behavior has been unacceptable the last time I was around. She was pouting, walking away, and being a general spoiled kid. I have a hard time with this behaviour, as I think strong parenting includes discipline and respect. So, I am not sure how to proceed with this. When it is just the 2 of us - it's great - he is so sweet, attentive, and just really great, and we have great chemistry. but I know that is not the entire package. Any advice for me? How should we as a couple proceed - we have talked about ways we can try to get through this time, and even went to the bookstore to try to find a book on it (no luck yet).

Weddinggrrl gave this response on 7/13/2000:

Well, at least you both recognize that there is a problem, and are committed to work it out so you can both enjoy the relationship.

See if you can take his daughter out to lunch by yourselves so she can get to know you, feel more comfortable with you. Try to find out what she likes, talk to her about her friends and school.

Don't push your boyfriend to discipline his child. If you cannot enjoy his company with her around, then you have to find a solution. Hopefully he will be a bit more firm with her.

Good luck!