Anonymous asked this question on 7/12/2000:
I dated this guy for a couple of months over the course of which I lost my virginity to him. before school ( college) got out for the summer I showed up and basically asked what the deal was. He seemed to be pretty honest and basically said he wasn't ready for a serious relationship because of his ex. and that He was going to europe. After the talk I spent the night and went to leave the next morning and he was like come here.. and we kissed. Since then we haven't talked because he refuses too. I also found out that after he got back from europe.. He had sex with his ex again, which he referred to as a whore.. and is going after his professor's daughter. I don't know why I can't seem to let go .. and don't really understand why he couldn't have just said "were done" and left it at that. Instead of hanging up the phone on me, when I call to talk. On top of which I feel stupid for falling for him because he seems like such a player and that I never meant anything to him.
freeblueone gave this response on 7/13/2000:
it sounds like you realy cared for this guy and being you first its going to take time to for get it you dont need to feel stupid for following your feelings he duped you like you said hes a player and your not the first one hes done it to i bet he mite want to keep you on the side thats why he didnt tell you you were done avoiding somebody is the easyeast way not to think about what you have done and haveing to explan why you did it or come up with and excuse for it not all men are like that but im sorry to say their are a few so take care and hope you find that one special one for you