Anonymous asked this question on 7/12/2000:

well here goes, my boyfriend and i are in a very long distance relationship, and we've met twice, once for nine days and once for 17 days, the first time we met, i was a virgin, so he was very gentle with me, and we moved very slowly, but the thing is when we were both ready, he couldnt get an erection, so we figured it was a combination of things, his worry over hurting me, the distance he'd traveled, anxiety over wanting it to be perfect, and so on. well the second time we met, he could get an erection, but could not keep it, so we still didnt make love properly, he says he's never had problems before, and when i talk to him on the phone now, (dont read the rest if youre easily offended) he gets hard and comes, so im wondering whats wrong with me? i mean how come when we're together we have problems, he assures me that its nothing to do with me, but im having a hard time believing that much longer any advice would be appreciated thanks

freeblueone gave this response on 7/13/2000:

fear plays a big part of that and worrie on will i be able to take care of her try takeing it a little slower more forplay and dont worrie about the sex part i dont think anything is wronge with you tell him theirs more ways to take care of you then that or guide him try makeing the sex not the most importin part of being together relaxing is importin try a fulbody massage with lotion or soft lights some wine good music and dinner or just takeing a shower together giveing each other a bath relaxing is the key and not getting in a hurry and letting each other know what you enjoy

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