Anonymous asked this question on 7/12/2000:

I dated this guy for a couple of months over the course of which I lost my virginity to him. before school ( college) got out for the summer I showed up and basically asked what the deal was. He seemed to be pretty honest and basically said he wasn't ready for a serious relationship because of his ex. and that He was going to europe. After the talk I spent the night and went to leave the next morning and he was like come here.. and we kissed. Since then we haven't talked because he refuses too. I also found out that after he got back from europe.. He had sex with his ex again, which he referred to as a whore.. and is going after his professor's daughter. I don't know why I can't seem to let go .. and don't really understand why he couldn't have just said "were done" and left it at that. Instead of hanging up the phone on me, when I call to talk. On top of which I feel stupid for falling for him because he seems like such a player and that I never meant anything to him.

Omega2000 gave this response on 7/13/2000:

Dear Anonymoous: I'm sorry your first experince had to be with someone who was less than dedicated to you. Its sad, but there are many men who are just lovers waiting to score. Not realizing just how special of a gift we are giving when we make-love for the first time or the 100th time.

Men think differently than we do on alot of things. They say one thing and we take it another way and vice versa. Its important that we choose our partners carefully in life. We sometimes ignore the signals of a bad relationship, simply because we want it to work out. Next time follow your heart and pay attention to those signals that are going off in your head and heart.Please don't beat yourself up over this guy. Move on a find someone who will love and know the special person that you are. Be good to yourself. Keep in touch. Omega2000