jyo asked this question on 7/12/2000:
HI THERE I M SO FUCKIN CONFUSED I DONNO WHAT TO DO NE MORE. I CHAT A LOT ON THE INTERNET AND I MET A GUY FROM MY CITY ON THE CHAT AND WE STARTED DATING BUT THEN THINGS WENT WRONG SINCE WE HAD DIFFERENT RELIGIONS AND WE HAD DIFFERENT TIMING OF OUR JOBS SO WE COULD HARDLY EVER GET IN TOUGFH NE WAYS WE BROKE UP CAZ ONCE HE CALLED ME AND I WAS ON THE CHAT WITH HIS YOUNGER BROTHER AN DI TOLD HIM TO HANG ON I HAVE TO LOGG OFF FROM THE NET HE THOUGHT THAT I SAID I WAS TALKING TO MY OTHER BF BUT IN REALITY I DONT HAVE ANY OTHER BOY FRIEND. I LOVE THIS GUY WITH ALL MY HEART BUT I JUST COULDNT TAKE THE ABUSIVE LANGUAGE HE USES WHEN EVER HE GETS UPSET SO WE BROKE UP AND I STILL LOVE HIM WE BOTH STILL GO ON THE CHAT AND NOW HE IS DATING ANOTHER GIRL FROM THE CHAT ROOM AND I M SO HURT. I DONNO
Terry2351 gave this response on 7/13/2000:
Well if you found this guy in the chat room, maybe there is yet another. As for religions that is easy enough to overcome, unless one of you is an orthodox - and very religious. Orthodox does not condone dating out of that religion..?? why, who knows, but some of these religions are pretty strict. As for the hours that too can always be overcome. Sounds like that you have some other issues though besides the hours and religion. You don't like his language when he gets upset. Well that is part of him. If you want to make a go of it with him, you should accept that. Never go into a relationship thinking, oh I can change this person. I can make them stop doing this and start doing that. If it bothers you that much and you are just dating, then I would suggest you go no further. Find someone that doesn't offend you with language and that has more of the same hours you do. And above all, don't play games. Don't tell someone you have a boyfriend if you don't. Too many times people think, well if I just tell them this they will get jealous. It doesn't always work that way and when you find that they didn't bite or play along, you are the one who gets hurt. Be straight up always.