Anonymous asked this question on 7/12/2000:

I dated this guy for a couple of months over the course of which I lost my virginity to him. before school ( college) got out for the summer I showed up and basically asked what the deal was. He seemed to be pretty honest and basically said he wasn't ready for a serious relationship because of his ex. and that He was going to europe. After the talk I spent the night and went to leave the next morning and he was like come here.. and we kissed. Since then we haven't talked because he refuses too. I also found out that after he got back from europe.. He had sex with his ex again, which he referred to as a whore.. and is going after his professor's daughter. I don't know why I can't seem to let go .. and don't really understand why he couldn't have just said "were done" and left it at that. Instead of hanging up the phone on me, when I call to talk. On top of which I feel stupid for falling for him because he seems like such a player and that I never meant anything to him.

muffin1960 gave this response on 7/13/2000:

I'm sorry that you got involved with someone who isn't treating you well. Treat yourself well and don't let him be in your company intimately anymore. Be strong and find someone who can make you happy.

It's easy to like someone who treats us bad. That's how life goes but, you must break the cycle and decide that you better than that and deserve more and will find the right guy. This time take your time and it may turn out good for you.

GOOD LUCK

P.S. He's not going to tell you it's over becuae eventually he is going to want to be with you sexually again. I hope you have the courage to say no