Anonymous asked this question on 7/12/2000:

well here goes, my boyfriend and i are in a very long distance relationship, and we've met twice, once for nine days and once for 17 days, the first time we met, i was a virgin, so he was very gentle with me, and we moved very slowly, but the thing is when we were both ready, he couldnt get an erection, so we figured it was a combination of things, his worry over hurting me, the distance he'd traveled, anxiety over wanting it to be perfect, and so on. well the second time we met, he could get an erection, but could not keep it, so we still didnt make love properly, he says he's never had problems before, and when i talk to him on the phone now, (dont read the rest if youre easily offended) he gets hard and comes, so im wondering whats wrong with me? i mean how come when we're together we have problems, he assures me that its nothing to do with me, but im having a hard time believing that much longer any advice would be appreciated thanks

muffin1960 gave this response on 7/13/2000:

It's not you, He is the only person that can effect his (er). There are alot of causes for this you both are going to have try and come up with different ways of being together.

Try a new place to be intimate, be creative about making the atmosphere relaxed and fun. If he doesn't function properly. Just reassure him it doesn't matter you love him anyway. IF you act like it bothers you he will only become more tense so try your best not to discuss it when it happens. Even better ignore it and do something else try again later. The less emphasize you put on it the better it will be. Hope this helps GOOD LUCK

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