Anonymous asked this question on 7/12/2000:

I dated this guy for a couple of months over the course of which I lost my virginity to him. before school ( college) got out for the summer I showed up and basically asked what the deal was. He seemed to be pretty honest and basically said he wasn't ready for a serious relationship because of his ex. and that He was going to europe. After the talk I spent the night and went to leave the next morning and he was like come here.. and we kissed. Since then we haven't talked because he refuses too. I also found out that after he got back from europe.. He had sex with his ex again, which he referred to as a whore.. and is going after his professor's daughter. I don't know why I can't seem to let go .. and don't really understand why he couldn't have just said "were done" and left it at that. Instead of hanging up the phone on me, when I call to talk. On top of which I feel stupid for falling for him because he seems like such a player and that I never meant anything to him.

Weddinggrrl gave this response on 7/13/2000:

He was probably just trying to let you down easy by giving you some excuse, and hoped that you would just disappear or "get the hint".

They say it's always tough to get over your "first", and that's probably why this is so hard for you to accept, but he probably IS a player, and it's best that you just move on. Find a guy who will treasure you!