Anonymous asked this question on 7/13/2000:

I'm a 30 year-old, female real estate agent who works in a affluent area, selling condo's out of a building that's just converted. I myself live in a middle-class area with my father. I meet alot of well-to-do men, because I'm attractive. However once I tell them I still live at home, they get turned off, or treat me in a condensing way. I do pay my father rent, and own my own vehicle, I'm also practically debt free. I do plan on moving out, once I have enough savings & downpayment. If I meet someone in the meanwhile, should I lie? Or avoid the subject?

ljack55 gave this response on 7/13/2000:

I know a lot of people who live at their parents' house in their 30s, both men and women. But, I have to say, when I hear that a man I am about to be set up with lives with his parents, I cringe. My suggestion is that you don't mention where you live unless you are asked. Don't lie either. Instead I would phrase it this way: “Right now I'm in transition. I'm not really living anywhere permanent. My parents have been kind enough to let me stay with them until I can find a place to live. I've been looking in so and so area (you fill in the blank) but haven't found anything to my liking. Do you have any suggestions on finding a place to stay? Although I love my parents, I can't imagine living their much longer. It's just too weird. I know I cringe when I hear that someone is living at home.” With this statement you are probably easing any hesitancy your date might have about you because you live at home. Plus, you are enlisting your date's help in resolving your so called problem. And, one last remark: if your date decides not to ask you out again because of where you live, then he's not worth your time anyway. Good luck!

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