Anonymous asked this question on 7/6/2000:

I have been dating this man for five years. We've been off and on. I live with him right now but I'm planning on going my own seperate way and explore a little. My family and I are close and we get together often. His father died some years ago which I believe broke up the family. I'm not fond of his family, especially his mother. All my relatives and family are getting together in a week for a party that is for me. My mother had an extra seat and so she asked me if I watned to invite his mother. I told her not really. Now I get along and am friendly with my "boy friend's" sister and her husband. I thought it would be nice if I invited them to my party. I asked my mother if I could invite them. My mother thinks that if I do I need to invite the mother also. I'm not comfortable with that though. I feel that why should I invite her if I don't like her. What's your thoughts on this? Also, I have told my "boy friend" that I don't like his mother.

Diannalyst gave this response on 7/6/2000:

Dear Anon-- I think out of respect for him you should invite his mother if you invite others in his family.... that demonstrates class.

Dr. D.

Anonymous asked this follow-up question on 7/7/2000:

I decided yesterday to invite the mother.

Diannalyst gave this response on 7/10/2000:

Dear Anon--

I don't think you will ever regret this decision .. particularly if you DO decide to pursue a relationship with this gentleman long term.

Please write back and let me know how it goes! I would be interested to hear.

God bless... Dr. D.

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