Anonymous asked this question on 7/9/2000:

Hi, This is I think most commonly asked question. About Anal sex. I am a married man with succesful three years. My wife and me are having good sexual relationship. We both tries to do it in different ways for a fun. I wanted to do a anal sex with her, but she is not ready for that. Ofcourse she is having very small anal spot. But is it really difficult or painful? If not how can I convince her for that?

Thanks for your help.

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SeekTrueLove gave this response on 7/10/2000:

Anal sex can be painful if not done properly. There are many precautions which should be taken. First of all, you should have consent from your wife. If she is not really into anal sex then don't pressure her for it.

You could possibly convince her if you can provide her with enough information on it. Perhaps some sex guides at the library or bookstore can help alleviate her fears.

Next, anal sex should be attempted slowly and with plenty of lubricant. The anal sphincter is a tight area which can accomodate a penis if done gradually. The lubricant should be water based so as to not damage the condom. And a condom would be the most prudent thing to use.

Also anal sex followed immediately my regular intercourse should not be attempted unless a cleaning of the penis or changing of the condom are done. The vagina can be seriously infected by bacteria from the rectum...not a good thing.

So just a few things to consider. Get more information for both you and your wife and maybe it can happen for you in the future.

Good luck.

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