Anonymous asked this question on 7/10/2000:
Me and many girlfriend have been together for nearly 18 months. She has been deep in Love with me and wanted to spend her life with me.
I Love her as well but I asked for some space in the beginning of June. I asked for that space because I couldnt see how she was transmitting her feelings for me as it wasnt obvious.
2 days later i didnt want that space as i had realised that she has been showing her feelings for me in her own way which she is comfertable with. But she said that she doesnt know if she can trust me with her feelings and that what if next time i break up for good..so now she wanted space to sort her head out.
I wrote her a long letter confirming my true love for her so after 3 weeks we met 2-3 times...got on...kissed and cuddled. But we still hadnt talked about the situation and sorted things out...
The other day we talked and she told me that she does still Love me but doesnt feel the same powerful love as she did before i asked for some space. She said that she is now not clear about whether i am the man she wants to spend her life with. She does want to sort things out and does hope that things will be ok.
I told her that she cant go back into that powerful love again overnight...it will take time. She understood that and said that 'we'll see how things go'.
So please can you tell me: what can i do to make her fall more in love with me again, as she was before ?
What should i avoid doing ?
Thanks in Advance
SeekTrueLove gave this response on 7/10/2000:
Dear Anonymous,
There is you have to do to make her fall in love with you...she fell in love with you before - just the way you are. So just be yourself. If it is TRUE LOVE then she will experience that deep love again. You're right, it may take some time. The space that you asked for has perhaps put some doubt in her mind...the same kind of doubt that you had. But, see how you discovered later on that you truly do love her and want to be with her. That took a bit of time right.
I commend both of you for really trying to think things through and to see whether you are right for each other. Making a long term commitment such as marriage should not be taken lightly, and the fact that you both needed some space and time to think about it shows how seriously you are considering the situation.
What should you avoid doing? Avoid being someone OTHER than yourself. Again, remember she fell in love with you before, and she still is in love and LOVES you. There's nothing really to do except give her the space and time she requires. It will be worth it in the end for both of you.
Good Luck.