Willingness to spend quality time every day alone with another no matter how your partner behaves and without trying to control the other person.
1. Do activities that promote awareness of each other and create pleasure through mutual effort.
such as: not: playing games watching TV exercising together going to movies working around the house just being together making things taking a drive dancing listening to music taking a walk watching others2. Do your quality time activities alone together, not with others.
3. Do your activities on a regular basis
-- in weak relationships, short time intervals, daily
-- in healthy relationships, at least a half hour per day, five to six days a week.
To guarantee a close intimacy, you both must be totally committed to spending quality time alone together on a regular basis. To make sure quality time becomes a habit, each person must keep a daily written record for at least two months of what is done and the time spent doing each activity.
QUALITY TIME ILLUSIONS
-- eating together
-- talking together
-- having sex
These activities do not create strong relationships, they can only enhance a love that already exists.
QUALITY TIME ENEMIES
-- talking about negative past
-- asking why when it leads to an excuse
-- telling others what they're doing or saying is wrong
-- serious individual problems
Copyright 1989 by Edward E. Ford
I notice that the items on his "not" list under QUALITY TIME all fall into the =general= category of "passively marking time", and my guess is that it's the passively marking time component he's warning against. My other guess is that most of the folks who hang out in this echo don't do much "passive marking of time", even when we're watching movies or taking a drive.