Anonymous asked this question on 3/24/2000:

My personal tutor keeps inferring that my innocent requests to improve my exam results, and let her in on the more personal aspects of my life such as my son and daughter, are too personal for her to handle. Thus she claims she does not want to be my saviour in life. I see this as a rejection of my capabilities, and therefore sexual harassment. In the fact that she has a phd., so I see her as my mentor, in a strict academic sense. Am I being sexually harassed? One thing I understand as a fact. I feel subdued by her actions.

AskRawgod gave this response on 4/1/2000:

I have checked out all the answers posted to this question so far, and I still can't see how the word "sexual" comes into this situation at all. There has been no touching, no sexual innuendo, no lewd joke, no nothing. So she's a lesbian and you're hetero with a penis -- BIG DEAL! She obviously isn't after your body (which may be the problem here) and even if you are after hers, you know you AINT gonna get it, so why try?

The real problem as far as I can see is how YOU interpret the role of "personal tutor"? Are you looking for someone to tell you how to live your personal life? Man, that is not what a tutor is for. A tutor is supposed to help you with your academic pursuits, and that is all. If you want help with your life, go see a psychiatrist.

I don't blame this woman one iota for not wanting to help you outside of your academic pursuits, from what you say I wouldn't either. And if you don't like that, I know why. You don't want to live your own life, you want "momma" or "daddy" to tell you what to do. Forget university or college or whatever school you are in, go join the Army, or the Marines. They tell you what to do from the moment they make you wake up till the moment they let you go to sleep.

But that wouldn't really help you, would it? No. The only thing that is going to help you is for YOU TO TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR OWN LIFE. No one feels sorry for you except you, why should they? You sound like a two year-old in a man's body. You mention a son and a daughter, but not a wife. Is there one? I doubt it. No one wants to live with a twenty-something year-old baby. GROW UP, MAN. Get off the pot. And stop bugging the lady tutor with tales of your personal life. Show her that you are learning whatever it is she is trying to teach you, THAT'S WHAT SHE WANTS FROM YOU. Whatever it is you want from her is immaterial, you're the student. You want her respect? EARN IT!!!

The average rating for this answer is 5.

Anonymous rated this answer a 5.

You obviously dont have much of a life your self. It was a question not an essay title, or you can type very fast,I am a 40 something not a 20 something and my daughter stayed over with me last night I cannot begin to tell you how happy I am at the moment.Thankyou for a few eye openers!!!DONT GIVE UP THE DAY JOB Yours sincerely, MATURE STUDENT (PSYCHOMANIA)