Anonymous asked this question on 4/26/2000:

Last week me and my friend "Bob" witnessed something at work that ended up bringing the police in and bringing up the possibility of having a certain someone fired. Bob and this person has never gotten along and has some motive to try to get this person fire. My problem is that my side of the story is being descredited now because this person is saying that I date Bob(by the way, I'm a heterosexual male). Now the rumor is all over and is causing all types of problems at work. what can i do?

ResolutionEssentials gave this response on 4/27/2000:

Rumors are a cancer of life. The best thing you can do is probably nothing but continue just "being yourself". One good thing about rumors is that unless they are substantiated they usually have a very short lifespan. Although I know for the person who is the subject of the rumor, two days seem like two years. It takes alot of strength to endure this type of situation but usually doing nothing is the best path. Try not to be defensive with people or else they will think you are hiding something. Don't let anyone push your buttons. Stay calm, cool and confident. You know that you are telling the truth. Since you asked this question in the category of "Sexual Harrassment" I'm assuming that either the "act" that you witnessed was one of this nature or the treatment you are now receiving is. Who at your company is in charge of dealing with Sexual Harrassment? It is usually someone in Human Resources. Talk to them and see what the policy is for your company. If you e-mail me I will give you a toll-free number you can use to talk to me privately and perhaps with more specific information I could help you in the event you have a case yourself. Go to http://www.robinbare.your.net and use the e-mail button to do this.

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