jodiann64 asked this question on 5/8/2000:

What do you do when a family member accuses you of abuse but actually its the other way around. And no matter who you talk to it is a totall waist of time because you have a bad tracct record for things that you have done in the past. But not only are you suffering but your children are suffering also.

Springeagle gave this response on 5/12/2000:

Hi jodiann64: I know what you are going through. I have experienced it , large. Once you have messed up people only pretend to forgive, they truly don't even know how yet. In my case I drove that point home. I forgave myself. Each time they threw things in my face or blamed me for things I did not do, I stated my case and repeated that I have already paid for what I had done and am not doing now and that they all did the similar only they did not get caught. Those whom are not involved , but take the side of those atacking you and those who are egnoring you when you try to explain are also guilty of doing similar and not being caught yet. You are being scapgoated. I ended up working the people out of my life or should I say they left as I kept speaking the truth and others did come to help me and defend me, and believe in me as I forgave myself. Love yourself and your children and let the others argue with themselves. You know you did not do it. Love be with you always. Springeagle