jodiann64 asked this question on 5/8/2000:

What do you do when a family member accuses you of abuse but actually its the other way around. And no matter who you talk to it is a totall waist of time because you have a bad tracct record for things that you have done in the past. But not only are you suffering but your children are suffering also.

S_S gave this response on 5/12/2000:

It can be very hard to accept being blamed for something which isn't your fault. The unfairness is really hard to bear.

The only thing that you can do is try to find someone, who you trust and will believe you, and tell them the whole story.

If people don't believe you and there's nothing you can do to convince them then just back off. For your own good, you have to step back and distance yourself from the hurt.

These things usually have a way of sorting themselves out. The guilty person usually slips up and the truth comes out. unfortunately it may not be for years.

People will only believe what they want to and you continually protesting your innocence will only look like guilt to a person who has already made up their mind. People who really care about you will listen to your side of the story, people who don't will believe the worst in you. Just because you made 1 or even 10 mistakes, doesn't mean that you don't deserve loyalty, love and respect.

Take this opportunity to find out who your friends really are and try to get on with your life. Does it really matter what people think, if it's not true.

Good luck....

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