jodiann64 asked this question on 5/8/2000:

What do you do when a family member accuses you of abuse but actually its the other way around. And no matter who you talk to it is a totall waist of time because you have a bad tracct record for things that you have done in the past. But not only are you suffering but your children are suffering also.

Liveagain gave this response on 5/11/2000:

You have to and must realize that this is the way that some people put their guilt and blame on someone else. It's called not accepting responsibility for one's actions. Them accepting responsibilty for what they did would mess up their so called "perfect" world. It's easier for them to transfer the blame to you than to actually think that they are capable of doing such evil things to another person. You need to seek a support group and a good counselor to help yourself because these people aren't going to change. The only person you can change is yourself. Stay away from these people and keep your children away from these people or the circle will be continued like it is at the present moment. If you must be around them, then as soon as they start any conversation about this, leave immediatly. Probably, the reason your track record isn't squeaky clean is because of the abuse you suffered which of course they're not going to realize since they will not even own up to their responsibilty for what they did.

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