jodiann64 asked this question on 5/8/2000:

What do you do when a family member accuses you of abuse but actually its the other way around. And no matter who you talk to it is a totall waist of time because you have a bad tracct record for things that you have done in the past. But not only are you suffering but your children are suffering also.

AuntRoe gave this response on 5/10/2000:

Dear Jodianna, First, you must let go of those quilt feeling you have for yourself and and forgive youself for the mistakes you may have made. One of the hardest things to do is seperate ourselfs from family, but for your own well being and that of your children, you must consider doing just that. It is not done out of anger or frustration, or to get back at the family. You do not deserve the manipulatin that some people do so freely. You do have the choice to walk away and live your life in peace. It doesn't mean, leave town, it just means ignor those that want to bring you down. It is very hurtful and you feel all alone, but just keep reminding yourself, that if you choice to live that way, you have allowed those who have hurt you,WIN! You be the winner, not them. In time they will be seen for what they really are, and you can hold your head up high. Keep a good relationship with the children's teachers and you will have the support you need if there are any false aligations about your behavior. Good Luck, think positive about your life. Aunt Roe

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