jodiann64 asked this question on 5/8/2000:

What do you do when a family member accuses you of abuse but actually its the other way around. And no matter who you talk to it is a totall waist of time because you have a bad tracct record for things that you have done in the past. But not only are you suffering but your children are suffering also.

CAVEWOMAN gave this response on 5/10/2000:

i got a theory for you. try killing them with kindness. ooooh how people hate that! see mental abuse comes out in many ways and your question is not full. so if i took it for just what you say. it is like this. your approach towards someone who instantly attacks your point of view has to be changed so that the person will be "willing" to have a more open mind to your point of view.

i know how you feel, you don't want to be attacked or belittled. that's crazy and when you speak you are only getting cut down right?

so try a whole new approach to the one who is the mental abuser.

tips. start listening, then once they see you have listened without any interuptions, when you do speak it will be harder for them to get their way over on you.

i hate when that happens, then when you speak my god people got to bring up all your past like you haven't grown and learned from it all. tell people that you are understand to their situation and this is how i feel. get it out of you. you can do it. don't let them pull you down to their level. because you are better then that!

go get em'

bye, debbie