jodiann64 asked this question on 5/8/2000:

What do you do when a family member accuses you of abuse but actually its the other way around. And no matter who you talk to it is a totall waist of time because you have a bad tracct record for things that you have done in the past. But not only are you suffering but your children are suffering also.

drkathy gave this response on 5/8/2000:

Hello Jodiann64: It is indeed very tough when we are accused of things we are not doing and are not believed because of our past.

Continuous conflict, domestic violence and abuse among the adults in a family, no matter who starts or ends it, is harmful for the children. If you have not already, see if you can find a counselor who will help you and your family member reduce the conflict and abuse in your family. A counselor should be impartial and not accuse either party of being at fault. Counseling should help you solve the problems and make relationships better.

If you do not have money for counseling, look in the phone book for your local mental health clinic, crisis center, or domestic violence center and see if they can help. Or if you have a minister, see if that person can help you find resources.

Best Wishes Kathy

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I did not submit this question Has someone accidentally gotten this mixed up?