AprilBreezes asked this question on 5/6/2000:

I have a strange problem. I have an active libdo and I need sex often. The problem is my boyfriend wont let me go out with other guys for sex. That sounds normal so far right? Well, here is where the problem lays. After my boyfriend and I have sex, he gets very irrate, and calls me names like whore, slut, cheap c#nt, and that sort of things. He also tells me how Jesus is going to condem me to hell and Satan owns my soul. He dont think of these things before sex, but after, he get wierd!!! I have tried to break up with him, but he says he'll never break up with me. He will make sure that I never leave him! HELP! What can I do? He even thinks using dildos and other sex toys to please myself is enough to "beat me back to God" so to speak. If you have any ideas, I would be so thankful. April B.

sherbie gave this response on 5/7/2000:

My Dear April :0) One thing that I have learned is that sex without love is just sex, and it will never satisfy you. As far as your active libido, i think that you are searching for intimacy more than just satisfying your physical desires. Your boyfriend is emotionally unavailable to you and even if he had sex with you every minute of every day you would still have that empty feeling that you feel right now. The same empty feeling that has made you stay with him, and made you somehow think you dont deserve better. Well, my friend, YOU DESERVE MUCH BETTER than this. I agree with the other experts' advice on what legal actions to take..although im not confident that you will take those difficult steps..it is very hard i know, trust me. What you need to do is take care of yourself, which honestly cannot be done until you shed the dead weight(your boyfriend)... my opinion is that you find people to talk to. not one person. but many people..surround yourself with an army of people who are willing to help you fight back when you are unable to do so on your own!! DO NOT BELIEVE any of the filth that comes from his mouth...and dont allow him to isolate you any further, find some support either through friends, family, a woman's shelter, or through the church. And once you get out DONT EVER LOOK BACK!!

:0) sherbie

PS are there any children involved??

sherbie gave this follow-up answer on 5/8/2000:

dear april, i currrently researching more references to give you as far as options..but it would really help if i knew where you live..you dont have to be specific but a state or major nearby city would help narrrow it down.. i will stay in touch!! stay safe, and take care.. what about friends? :0) sherbie you can email me anytime at sherbie@email.com

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AprilBreezes rated this answer a 4.

You are right, it is difficult to get away even with the help of the law. You said suround myself withpeople that wont put me down. My family , whats left of it, lives on the other side of the US. Is there any support groups you know of that I could talk to without him knowing about it? As his father is the police chief in our town, he kows all the shelters and groups here.