AprilBreezes asked this question on 5/6/2000:

I have a strange problem. I have an active libdo and I need sex often. The problem is my boyfriend wont let me go out with other guys for sex. That sounds normal so far right? Well, here is where the problem lays. After my boyfriend and I have sex, he gets very irrate, and calls me names like whore, slut, cheap c#nt, and that sort of things. He also tells me how Jesus is going to condem me to hell and Satan owns my soul. He dont think of these things before sex, but after, he get wierd!!! I have tried to break up with him, but he says he'll never break up with me. He will make sure that I never leave him! HELP! What can I do? He even thinks using dildos and other sex toys to please myself is enough to "beat me back to God" so to speak. If you have any ideas, I would be so thankful. April B.

wwnelsonfive11 gave this response on 5/7/2000:

Dear AprilBreezes:

This is really sick! Not you...HIM!

Your sexuality is not his business. Nor is that what really concerns him. By the way, if he is such a believer in Jesus, why is he having sex with you in the first place! (Rhetorical question) Obviously he has a libido that he is satisfying!

But he has another problem besides libido. It's called "ANGER"! Selfrighteous anger has been used as an excuse by many throughout history to do what they wanted to do, or to excuse their own problems. But, don't make any mistake about it, this guy is dangerous! Get rid of him and, please, get help in doing it! Please contact a local abuse hot-line and find out what your options are. But, don't waste any time. Get out! Period!

And as for your "overactive" libido, I counsel people all the time who have "overactive" libidos, both male and female and there are some very simple things you can do about it. I'd like to share these with you. However it would be innappropriate to discuss these in this open board. If you would like to contact me privately I will share with you.

Thanks, And God Bless,

William

wwnelsonfive11 gave this follow-up answer on 5/7/2000:

AprilBreezes:

By the way, Jesus Himself wouldn't "beat you back to God"!! Jesus is a gentleman and works with each person with patience and love. Sometimes tough love, but always with love.

William

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