Anonymous asked this question on 5/1/2000:

I have a boyfriend who very rarely will pinch, hit and hurt me for no reason. i dont get bruised or anything though. i think he thinks that i want to wrestle or sumptin, but when i wrestle i dont hurt others that much. but after he does this he will kiss what he hurt better. he also sometimes calls me names for no reason. is this abuse?? if it is what can i do?? i dont want to leave him becasue i think i know why hes like this, his father used to hit his mother and him. and ive been with him for a very long time. what can i do to make him stop?? please help

ROSETTA900 gave this response on 5/6/2000:

HI

THIS IS SYMTAMITC IF THE CYCLE OF ABUSE! AND THOSE THAT ABUSE WILL TRY TO GO INTO THE HONEY MOON PHASE TO KISS AND MAKE UP TO MAKE EVERYTHING OK AGAIN.

YOU MUST BE FIRM AND STATE THAT YOU DO NOT LIKE THIS BEHAVIOR AND ASK HIM TO STOP AND SET UP A GUIDLINE OF WHAT BOTHERS YOU. BUT YOU MUST SPEAK UP TO THIS. OR THEY CYCLE OF ABUSE WILL KEEP GOING

ROSE

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