Anonymous asked this question on 5/1/2000:

I have a boyfriend who very rarely will pinch, hit and hurt me for no reason. i dont get bruised or anything though. i think he thinks that i want to wrestle or sumptin, but when i wrestle i dont hurt others that much. but after he does this he will kiss what he hurt better. he also sometimes calls me names for no reason. is this abuse?? if it is what can i do?? i dont want to leave him becasue i think i know why hes like this, his father used to hit his mother and him. and ive been with him for a very long time. what can i do to make him stop?? please help

niki6 gave this response on 5/5/2000:

IT IS ABUSE HOWEVER; I DON'T THINK HE KNOWS HE ACTUALLY HURTING YOU AND HAVING SEEN IT MOST ABUSERS WERE ABUSED, I WOULD TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT AND TRY TO GO TO COUSELING WITH HIM..HE CAN ALSO GO TO ANGER MANGEMENT TO REDUCE THE NAME CALLING AS WELL, BUT BE SURE TO TELL HIM..WREASTLING ISN'T FIN ANY MORE AND THAT HURTS HOPEFULLY IF HE TRULY LOVES YOU HE WILL TRY TO OVERCOME THIS AND STOP...I WISH YOU ALL THE BEST AND I HOPE THAT HE DOES GO TO COUNSELING AND IT ALL TURNS OUT...IF I CAN DO ANYTHING ELSE; I'D BE GLAD TO HELP, JUST ASK...I'LL DO MY BEST...GOOD LUCK

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